5 fears that first-time parents have
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The arrival of a baby, though it may be a time of great joy, is also accompanied by fear, insecurity and sometimes much paranoia. No matter how much parents to study and report on the subject: you can not help but feel certain fears when it is going through the experience of having a child for the first time.
Fear is part of life, considers the psychologist Generating Health, Katia Aparecida Sebastian Sanchez, and all individuals feel in some way: "Fear is related to the life story of each one, the parents passed in its infancy could bring a fear that your child can go through the same situation. "
Do not worry, it is more than normal to be unsafe when it is undergoing a first pregnancy. The best way to avoid despair is even very truly specialized information. Since the announcement of pregnancy, parents are bombarded with information and advice, many false, and some horror stories. Always try to seek reliable references when in doubt.
"The information has two facets: the lack of it can bring insecurity of the unknown and the excess can also cause fear the differences that are found, parents are confused because they do not often know what to believe," adds Dr. Katia..
Fears and paranoia reach almost all parents. Even if they are more than clear, certain issues can only learn through experience. To ease and not let fears dominate your life, check out a list of some of the most common fears among new parents:
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1. Will I be able to raise and educate a baby?
This is a very common fear and generally already comes along with the news of the pregnancy. Katia Aparecida The psychologist believes that the forty weeks of baby's development in the womb is just an ideal time for parents, especially the mother, get ready to receive the baby.
"Talking about the feelings and fantasies about the new phase that are living can help the couple develop internal resources to deal with this fear. Only in everyday experience is that parents develop in their new roles and will learn how to educate your child. We need to learn to get rid of the guilt, because nobody is perfect and parents have their faults, but they can learn from them, "he explains.
2. Child Fear not well fed
Breastfeeding is not something that easy for all women. While some succeed on the first try, it is also very common to experience some problems for breastfeeding catch of way. Working well or not, it is almost impossible that parents do not worry about feeding the children. The feeds are measured by time, which does not allow to make sure the quantity consumed. Even when the baby feeds on supplements, the fear of nutrition is sufficient remains.
The most common indication is that the baby visit pediatrician regularly at least the first six months. These consultations will measure the baby's growth and also to educate parents about the best way to feed the child. Also, do not believe if someone says that your milk is weak. No milk is weak, it is only important to check the routine breastfeeding to see if they are satisfactory.
3. Fear of childbirth
All couples and especially women fear childbirth. It implies a choice and involves birth and death. The death of the daughter becomes a mother, and two births: the baby and the mother. It is a milestone in a series of changes in women's lives. It is the most intense moment and transformative in your life, a fear of dying, baby loss of life as it was, the self and also the gain of a child and the new life that will come with it. It is a unique experience, thousands of thoughts, fantasies and feelings at the same time.
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According to Katia, it is necessary that women can also prepare for childbirth by seeking information, groups and courses for pregnant women, psychotherapy or psychological prenatal care. "If the woman is provided with knowledge of the entire pregnancy and childbirth it may be easier, and yet we can not claim to have no fear, but they sure know how to deal with it."
4. Fear of not being able to breastfeed
"This fear can also be worked from the information search, courses and groups of pregnant women. It is important that women perform a conscious choice to breastfeed and not only because it believes it is important to the child. Breastfeeding will require patience, persistence, dedication and time, so the mother must be willing, is not instantaneous as it may seem, it is a learning experience, "said Katia Aparecida psychologist.
5. Fear of the baby getting sick and I do not wake up at night
Especially when parents are first-time, fear of the baby bad clearance or die suddenly it is more than common. Every pregnant heard of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome and fears that her baby can be achieved. This fear is what makes parents worry at all times to check to see if the baby is breathing. Who has not experienced this or heard this story?
Fear is common because of the security feature that accompanies the new parents during the first months of the baby. The best way to reassure about it is talking to the pediatrician and taking all of your questions, as they seem insignificant. Despite not knowing the exact causes, some care has dramatically decreased the number of sudden deaths, how to put the baby to sleep on her back, avoid smoke or blankets that may cause suffocation hazard. See the pediatrician.
How can parents do to try to calm down before these fears?
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The indication is the psychologist Katia Aparecida, the Generating Health: "I believe that self-knowledge makes all the difference. Searching for information is always very important, but you also need a filter, what works for one will not necessarily work for someone else. Whenever fear flees one's control or affect when some aspect of your life is important to seek professional help, in this case a psychologist. "
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Keep prenatal days and be accompanied by good people, not only during pregnancy but also in the early years of the baby, it is the key part for the period to be as quiet as possible. Marriage and family understanding are also very important factors for insecurity is dwindling.
Try not to feed some fears that do not show evidence but keeping, of course, attention to your baby. If everything is going normally, there will be why waste such as significant moments with unfounded fears. The information will be your best ally.