7 signs that you are in a healthy relationship
Being in a relationship should not be a mandatory requirement for you to feel full. But for a relationship worthwhile, it has to bring things that complement you, allowing you to be an even better version of herself.
When we are in love, we may end up revealing some partner's attitudes are nothing positive. Often the tendency is to find justifications for these actions, even if you are very hurt.
Realize that you are in a toxic relationship is not easy, but this is the first step to get out of this situation and take over your life. Meet some differences between toxic and healthy relationships to help you in this mission:
1. You are free to do their thing
A mature partner knows to keep other interests beyond the relationship is necessary and beneficial for both people. So when you're in a healthy relationship, you feel free to continue to maintain their friendships and practicing his hobbies before, whether jogging, dance class, attend cooking classes etc.
When a partner prevents you from keeping your old interests, is making emotional blackmail ( "I can not get away from you!") Or prohibiting reportedly, this is a clear sign that the relationship is not healthy.
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2. You act the same way with or without him
With your friends and family, you are a cheerful, talkative and relaxed person, but when you're with your partner, you feel you should be more contained and keep quiet? This is not a good sign.
In healthy relationships, we do not feel the need to "adjust" our behavior in the partner's presence. Rather, it is with him we can be ourselves.
3. The powers and obligations are divided equally
In a toxic relationship, it is very clear that there is a partner that "send" and a partner who "obey". It is always the same person who decides whether you go or not go, where you go and what will be the priorities of the couple. In addition, the person who obeys is responsible for performing all the obligations which should be divided between the couple, as do the household chores and look after children.
When the relationship is healthy, the partners come into consensus on decisions, taking them always together. Similarly, the obligations are also divided between the two, with cooperation between the couple.
4. The partner encourages your dreams
Even if the dreams of you are not exactly alike, who are partners in a healthy relationship support each other in achieving the goals of each.
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If, on the other hand, your partner always suggest that your dreams are unattainable, you should not go after them or even if you have no ability to realize them, this attitude indicates a lack of companionship of him.
5. The differences are welcome
Partners need not be equal to make the relationship work. Often, precisely are the differences that attract two people, either in taste for a particular food, the hobbies and interests of each.
The problem is when the couple sees these differences as a threat and seeks to deny its existence, no longer able to enjoy the individual characteristics.
A note: of course there are differences in values that are virtually impossible to reconcile or they could put one of the partners at risk. When it comes to appreciate the differences, we are referring to those characteristics that make each person unique.
6. Do you still have privacy
It is not uncommon to come across jokes with the fact that a person has a lot of fear that your partner discover the password of your phone. While many people see this as a laughing matter, how the couple deals with privacy can also be a sign that this is a toxic relationship.
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When you have a healthy relationship, you do not get desperate to leave his cell to the partner's reach, because you know he will not rummage through your things. And even if it did, there would be nothing to worry about. Respect for individual privacy only happens when there is trust between the couple.
7. You have constructive discussions
Having a healthy relationship does not mean that there be no misunderstanding and that a partner ever hurt you the other. The total absence of fights is a very idealized view of life together.
Conflict is natural in any relationship and it is a sign that both of you are trying to communicate something to each other. The problem is when you feel there is something wrong, but you do not feel comfortable to say that the partner.
Disagree, show grief and clarify misunderstandings are healthy attitudes to the relationship, because they showed that the partners are interested in seeking a solution. Of course, discussions with physical or verbal aggression are not constructive in any way.
Each person is unique, so it can be difficult to say that certain behavior proves that a relationship is toxic. If you feel disrespected and void or realize you're betraying herself to avoid conflicts, reflect is really worth insisting on this relationship.
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